I know this isn’t a conventional topic for my blog, but I hope you’ll agree that it’s an understandable exception.
Saturday was simply one of the most perfect days of my life. The setting was amazing; the OBE Chapel in the crypt of St Pauls, surrounded by the tombs of William Blake, Wren, Nelson and Wellington gave the ceremony a feeling that was indescribable. And the great thing was, the setting wasn’t the most memorable part of it.
To see my son Mark’s face when he saw his wife walk down the aisle (where moments before he looked like he was about to be sick), was a heart-stopping moment, because he looked how I feel when I’m about to do something difficult and Bex walks in. I guess because she makes me feel that together we can do anything, when I saw Mark and Tara look at each other the same way, I felt safe for them too. And I know that’s my projection, and I don’t care.
And so many other things: The bond between Mark and his brother Stuart (who was best man) and his half-brother Glen, was a beautiful thing to behold. The moment with my ex-wife Karen, her partner Mark, Bex and myself when we toasted the good job we’ve done raising fine boys, was precious, and watching Stu give the best Best Man’s speech I’ve ever heard was truly spooky, because we always look for bits of us in what our children do, but sometimes you see emerge from them something that isn’t simply an inherited trait, or a mix of stuff from their parents, it’s something uniquely their own, and his delivery had a charisma that came from nowhere else and no one else.
And watching Mr and Mrs Mark Silvester set off for their honeymoon the next morning glowing with happiness, with all of the hopes and dreams that attend that moment in young lives, left me so profoundly grateful for everything I have in my life, and everything that has got me to this point of it, that I had to sit alone for a while to compose myself. So much of the good in life springs from the love of the people you share it with; and I’m truly blessed.
But Bex was a bit mean laughing for a full half of a hymn, just because of my singing. Inside I’m Bobby Brown.
Congatulations, Trevor and Bex,
It sounds like the most perfect of days,
best regards,
Joa Reinelt
Wow what a special day!! It’s hard to explain these things sometimes but I did have a lump in my throat when I read this! When family works well it can be an amazing experience and how great that you can be so proud of what you have been a part of creating! People make the world go round don’t they just and that’s what you’ve created in Quest!
Looking very posh with Mrs S as well- clean pants and vests on I’m sure!!
Love
Jill
xx
Congratulations from the heart to you, Bex and your family – what an incredible experience and how generous of you to share it here too – beautiful photo. Getting married is the most breath-taking and love-filled moment I’ve experienced and watching the faces of the people sharing the moment makes it all the more powerful. Bless you xx
I hope my son lets me be his friend on the facebook equivalent in the future (‘thoughtbook’?!) and the thought of having his brother (if he ever has one) as his best man would just be heavenly. A testament of the relationship you have with your boys and what a bond they have with each other and you. Precious indeed.
Trevor, thank you for sharing this with us all. It was beautifully expressed and it was wonderful to experience it vicariously through you.
Trevor, I’m glad you decided to break from your traditional blog to share your experiences over the weekend. It’s at moments such as this that we are able to be truely grateful for what we have.
It’s a great thing isn’t it, to realise that you have all done a great job in raising your broad – you must be so proud.
… and not a meringue in sight!
Ax
Trevor and Bex
Where do the years go, what a fine figure of a man and what a beautiful bride. I can only imagine from the picture that you painted what an amazing day you had. The words speak for themselves. You all look so radiant, love the outfit Bex. You never know we could be calling you granny and grandad before long!!
Jax xx
Trevor,
Your post has dragged me out of hibernation! I just had to say huge congratulations. It was a truly lovely piece and made me go all gooey and cry. Your pride in your boys has always been apparent but I can really feel how special the weekend was.
I hope to experience something similar one day….
Sending big love to you and Bex,
Amita xx
I meant to say, you are much cooler than Bobbi Brown! xx
Many congratulations to you and your family Trevor. It sounds like a lovely memorable day – and I hope some funny moments too for you all to talk about in the future!
B.
Congratulations to everyone & dashing photo!!
Tx
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah – lovely, Congratulations to you all,
Laurie x
Congratulations – To you all
Congratulations to you and your family!
You have truly captured some memorable moments that you can cherish and talk about for many years to come. So happy for you.
S xx
Trevor
what a fabulous day you had. The photo just shines with happiness and a bond for everyone to see. Your words also express the great pride you obviously have. Congratulations to all of you.
Hugs….Judie x
I suddenly find myself humming ‘All you need is love’…
AWWWWWWW! Congrats to the new Mr and Mrs Silvester, Marriage is so lush! What a lovely piece of writing, i just can’t stop going awwwww! x
Thanks for sharing such a moving event. I felt quit happy and proud myself just reading it! Must be those mirror neurons doing their work again.
Plus I like the new picture on the home page . . . very friendly and more flattering!
Congratulations!!! Just doesn’t seem to cover it.
I am having trouble getting past OOOhhh and aaahhhh and aaawww
Beautiful picture of the lot of you, each one more impressive then the last no matter which order you go in left to right or randomly from the middle – you’ve all scrubbed up well and are glowing inside out.
A beautiful shining example to all of us of how great a family can be and well worth the challenges to get to each landmark something we can all aspire to.
Here’s to many more landmarks to look forward to for each and every one of you and may you continue to revel in the joys of eachothers lives, joys which are magnified as you see the wonder of the moment confirmed in each others eyes.
Poor lad, looks just like his dad.
Congratulations to all your family, I’m very happy for you. What a good thing to share on your blog
Boy Trev, you’re going into the realms of feelings here!! What a lovely description of your day – felt I was there. Fantastic!
Brilliant news Trevor and Bex, what a wonderful day. Thanks for sharing it with us.
How lovely, you would never guess you are an AD! It sounds like a wonderful day was had by all, I wish them all the very best for a long and happy future together. Thanks for sharing. Jacqui x
Massive congratulations to you both, your son and your new daughter in law! What a wonderfully written description of the day. Thank you for sharing this with us all. Gianna x
Hi – only just caught up with this blog and so glad I did.
Wonderful sharing of the day and photo, family life at its best.
I cant begin to imagine what it will feel like seeing one of my own children getting married, but hope it will be as fantastic as you described.
Made my day – thank you.
Marilyn x
Hi guys, I am back from Amsterdam. Thought to have a look at how things were going for Quest and read about this. Congratulations. What am amazing wedding setting. You are both such lovely people, I am happy that life is going well for you and your family. I am still reading plenty of books.. Take care.
Jamie
Dear Trevor and Bex!
It is so wonderful that you’ve decided to share the most precious moments in your family life with all of us! It is so, so sweet!
My sincere congratulations to proud and happy Dad and the best step mum in the world Bex!
And of course, to the wonderful newlywed couple! Great happiness to all of you and may it last from day to day, from week to week and from year to year…and spread all around you:)
With great appreciation and very best wishes,
Agne